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(Pre-Note: This is for 1 specific person, and could cause distress to persons it's not targeted for who choose to read it, when the full situation is not understood. I've only encountered this in a single individual. I'm usually receptive to any friendship - I can accept them at a later and more right time. I mentioned it on yozurt.com on June 10. I ask , please proceed with caution. Thanks.)

To who I call a "Particular Person" or "Particular Someone", this document is specifically for him:
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1) Special days, like a holiday, are for many people, a couple, or individual. These days normally include those who would like to participate. Other days are exclusive for a group of people - a birthday.
If anyone wants to be excluded from these days, to exclude oneself is a privilege. It is okay.

2) A friendship is created, by earning it from a specific person. After a friendship is made, the gifts of a friendship are obvious (from this person). If a friendship is not earned, its gifts are not a privilege.

3) Special days add to the lives of people or person, but are not required. They are like an extra bonus.
What is required is a person's physical, emotional, mental health. These of any person precede a special day, because they are required and the special day is like an extra bonus.

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From these 3 things I give the outcome of my decision, for a "particular someone" or "particular person".
This whole document is about him - mentioned by these 2 labels.

Before October 16, 2021, I posted my personal colors, which were to go into actual effect on this day of October 16. These colors I saw were never used consistently through months by a particular person before this day of Oct 16. [Find it in location: "Blog Area" button > "List" blog]
By a person, male or female, who would like to display and offer a friendship or relationship to me, I have felt and have been feeling, to use these specific colors consistently many times, that eventually becomes so obvious that for me I can surely and personally recognize it, is one of a variety of ways to show his/her interest that could have this result.

About a particular someone:
For about 1 year, I have repeatedly said, "I am not interested," in a friendship. Which I believe is a polite way of saying "no" towards this kind of relationship.

This is another point. Because of evidences I've seen, it has become obvious to me he has spied into my private activities online. These actions I believe can be identified as an extreme behavior of having a true want, desire, or inclination to know what I'm doing. As a result of this level of (what I will call) an intrusion into any person's personal space, we can obviously say, it's quite likely that naturally he also watches most or all my Panda Side blogs, that clearly show the word "Private" above and below the blogs of this area. This plainly includes the blog "par - per", which specifically was dedicated to him - only a month ago. Because I've written to him through the length of many years, it should have been eventually plain he knows I have obviously written about him and finally to him in this blog.
(However, past an approx. 2 years before, this area was not shown as "Private" when I had written to him previously. Because of the numerous intrusions already, I felt writing to him here a month ago, was the best place to reach him.)

In this case, a "particular someone" knows I've been expressing my repeated frustrations, disapprovals and answers about a friendship that has been consistently offered to me I've seen very plainly, even any ordinary person can notice, that for in many previous years I haven't given any sign of interest, and an interest in years following today I may not eventually or likely find. Also, there is no current friendship between the particular person and I, or has ever been.

In many various Blogs about the particular someone:
A few times, I mentioned this friendship is "against my will". A few times I mentioned the word "aggressive behavior" for a friendship with me. A couple of times, I mentioned the word "harass". A few times, I said to "discontinue" the offering of the friendship at certain expenses to me. A few times, I mentioned "emotional harm" to me. Forgive this; I have even rudely and mistakenly mentioned "pesters", which I apologized for and changed the next day (to a gentler "pestered", which is still unkind but sincere). This quote, is from the frustration about repeated aggressive actions toward me. Also added, I mentioned my objections toward this extreme kind of behavior in other ways as well. When I consider him, I have never seen a man go so far into uncomfortable extremes.

He knows I've not been interested in any kind of friendship or even relationship, at least for a year, because I had openly said it; On August 19, 2022, in blog "par - per" I have even said, if this continues, it will tread into grounds of emotional abuse. That was a month ago.

On September 13, 2022 in blog "home", I said to "discontinue". That was 3 days ago. Immediately following after, he offered a friendship without any cause - which in my opinion shows as an aggressive or forceful behavior (when it abruptly and directly goes against and ignores my wishes in less than 3 days).

As anyone, a friendship has to be earned to get its gifts. If it's not earned it doesn't get these gifts. I will mention a particular someone I have been explaining about has not earned my friendship. This also means, my friendship shouldn't be brought into any special day, by a friendship that hasn't been earned. Without earning my friendship, even to invite me into any special day, when I didn't want to be included, will not grant the privileges of a friendship (#1). In actuality even on a special day, in doing so despite my repeated expressions that it's against my will, through the last previous year, has only brought (among other things) real emotional damage toward another individual - who is myself;
Because this offer, of an unwanted friendship, many times had caused negative circumstances that had created the emotional damage.
Even on special days (#3 above) any person's health precedes it in importance, because health is required and special days are extra.
To aggressively force a friendship onto me against my will, jeopardizes my emotional and mental health, which precedes any special day.

I'll say it again. I am "not interested in any relationship or friendship" with a "particular person". This is a polite way of saying it. However, please do not ignore the weight and seriousness of this message, and what it really means.
Also, because the actions I had and will describe are a violation to any person's private life, I would even suggest, advise, and please ask this "particular person" please do not continue to view my personal blogs (in the private area of the "Panda Side") and in general any of my online activities, especially those that can be seen as personal.

***This day starts the day that shows improper behavior that I can properly identify, when from here any further offer of a friendship is given in future days (as well as, any offer that plainly resembles a relationship like a friendship), can be seen as Emotional and Mental Abuse by him against my health. (Added to this is the might of support by world influence he has.) If these kind of actions continue, in the days ahead I even could identify it as something worse, that will be a more proper and fitting label.

As I watched for many years, these aggressive actions that force a friendship toward a person's emotional and mental abuse Can Not be called friendly. To a "particular person", I say again please discontinue and stop any more offers of friendship. Any further offers from a "particular person" directly toward me, starting from this day, I will properly identify as emotional and mental abuse that I'm likely receiving. Please forgive me, because of these reasons, (like from any person in general) a friendship will not be given and isn't available for at least years to come. Actual repeated emotional and mental abuse is not accepted by most people.

"Please forgive me. I'm very sorry. I do this to be safe. I wish you good luck. Have a great lifetime. I wish you pleasant days. goodbye."

THANK YOU